Editing Xaviera Hollander

{{Short description|Dutch prostitute (born 1943)}}
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{{Infobox person
| name        = Xaviera Hollander
| image       = Portrait_of_Xaviera_Hollander_looking_naughty.jpg
| caption     = Hollander in 2008
| birth_name  = Xaviera de Vries
| birth_date  = {{Birth date and age|df=yes|1943|06|15}}
| birth_place = [[Surabaya]], [[Japanese occupation of the Dutch East Indies|Japanese-occupied Dutch East Indies]]
| citizenship = [[Netherlands]]
| known_for   = ''[[The Happy Hooker|The Happy Hooker: My Own Story]]''
| occupation  = 
| spouse      = Frank Applebaum (m. ?)<br />{{marriage|Philip de Haan|2007}}
| website     = {{URL|www.xavierahollander.com/}}
}}

'''Xaviera Hollander''' (born 15 June 1943) is a Dutch former [[call girl]], [[pimp|madam]] and author. She is best known for her best-selling memoir ''[[The Happy Hooker|The Happy Hooker: My Own Story]]''.

==Early life==
Hollander was born Xaviera de Vries in [[Surabaya]], [[Japanese occupation of the Dutch East Indies|Japanese-occupied Dutch East Indies]], which later became part of present-day [[Indonesia]], to a [[History of the Jews in the Netherlands|Dutch Jewish]] physician father and a mother of French and German descent.<ref name="Ross">{{cite news |last=Ross |first=Deborah |title=Xaviera Hollander: Is the Happy Hooker still happy after all these years? |url=https://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/profiles/xaviera-hollander-is-the-happy-hooker-still-happy-after-all-these-years-8389838.html |archive-url=https://ghostarchive.org/archive/20220507/https://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/profiles/xaviera-hollander-is-the-happy-hooker-still-happy-after-all-these-years-8389838.html |archive-date=7 May 2022 |url-access=subscription |url-status=live |newspaper=The Independent |date=8 December 2012 |access-date=29 July 2013}}{{cbignore}}</ref> She spent the first years of her life in a [[List of Japanese-run internment camps during World War II|Japanese-run internment camp]].<ref name=advocate>{{Cite journal|last=Che |first=Cathay |title=The Happy Hooker gets the girl |journal=[[The Advocate (LGBT magazine)|The Advocate]] |pages=80–3 |date=20 August 2002 }}</ref> After the end of Japanese occupation the family returned to the Netherlands.

In her early twenties she left [[Amsterdam]] for [[Johannesburg]], where her stepsister lived. There she met and became engaged to American economist John Weber. When the engagement was broken off, she left South Africa for [[New York City]].<ref name=Hollander1971>{{Cite book |title=The Happy Hooker: My Own Story |publisher=Sphere Books |year=1971 |isbn=978-0-06-001416-2 |last=Hollander |first=Xaviera |url=https://archive.org/details/happyhookermyown00holl }}</ref>

==Career==
In 1968, she resigned from her job as a secretary in the Dutch consulate in [[New York City]] to become a [[call girl]],<ref name="Ross" /> making up to {{US$|1,000|link=yes}} a night (equivalent to ${{Inflation|US|1000|1968|fmt=c|r=-2}} in {{Inflation/year|US}}).<ref name="Bert"/> A year later, she opened her own [[brothel]], the Vertical Whorehouse, and soon became [[New York City]]'s leading madam. In 1971, she was arrested for [[prostitution]] by [[New York City Police Department|New York Police]] and forced to leave the United States.<ref>{{cite news |url=https://nypost.com/dispatch/5-police-corruption-scandals-that-rocked-new-york-city/ |title=5 Police Corruption Scandals that Rocked New York City |date=28 December 2015 |newspaper=[[New York Post]] |access-date=11 September 2017}}</ref><ref>{{cite web |title=Notorious New York City brothels: 'Manhattan Madam' Kristin Davis supplied hookers for clients including Eliot Spitzer |url=https://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/notorious-new-york-city-brothels-manhattan-madam-kristin-davis-supplied-hookers-clients-including-eliot-spitzer-article-1.1033772 |website=New York Daily News |access-date=10 December 2018 |date=6 March 2012}}</ref>

===Author===
In 1971, Hollander published a memoir, ''[[The Happy Hooker]]: My Own Story.'' [[Robin Moore]], who took Hollander's dictation of the book's contents, came up with the title, while Yvonne Dunleavy ghostwrote it.<ref>John Cassidy, "The hell-raiser", ''Sydney Morning Herald'', 9 December 2000, Good Weekend, p. 80</ref> Hollander later wrote a number of other books and produced plays in [[Amsterdam]]. Her second book, ''Child No More'', is the story of losing her mother. For 35 years she wrote an advice column for ''[[Penthouse (magazine)|Penthouse]]'' magazine, entitled "Call Me Madam."<ref name="Ross"/>

===Other ventures===
[[File:Xaviera Hollander and Malcolm Bennett appearing on "After Dark", 28 October 1989.jpg|thumb|[[After Dark (TV programme)#Xaviera Hollander and "Men and Women: What's the Difference?"|Appearing]] on TV programme ''[[After Dark (TV programme)|After Dark]]'' in 1989]]

In the early 1970s, she recorded a primarily spoken-word album titled ''Xaviera!'' for the Canadian [[GRT Records]] label (GRT 9230-1033), on which she discussed her philosophy regarding sex and prostitution, sang a [[cover version]] of the [[The Beatles|Beatles]]' song "[[Michelle (song)|Michelle]]", and recorded several simulated sexual encounters, including an example of [[phone sex]], a [[threesome]], and a celebrity encounter with guest "vocal" by [[Ronnie Hawkins]]. ''Xaviera's Game'', an erotic board game, was released in 1974 by Reiss Games, Inc. In 1975, she starred in the semi-autobiographical film ''[[My Pleasure Is My Business]]''. Beginning in 2005, she operated Xaviera's Happy House, a bed-and-breakfast, in her Amsterdam home.<ref>{{cite web |title=Xaviera Hollander's 'Happy House Bed&Breakfast' |url=https://www.xavierahollander.com/happy-sleeper.html |publisher=xavierahollander.com |access-date=10 December 2018}}</ref>

==Personal life==
For several years in the 1970s, Hollander lived in [[Toronto]], where she married Frank Applebaum, a Canadian antique dealer, and was a regular fixture on the downtown scene. She mentioned a lover named John Drummond, with whom she partnered for many years, co-authoring two books, including ''Let's Get Moving'' (1988) about their life together: "I went there with, who for years had been the love of my life, John Drummond, a wild Scottish intellectual who, at times, liked his whisky, beer, and wines too much. We had great sex, often up to three times a day — all that and he was about 17 years older than me."<ref name="Bert">{{cite news|url=http://www.femininecollective.com/interview-xaviera-hollander-happy-hooker/|title=Interview: Xaviera Hollander, the Happy Hooker|last=Woodson|first=Bert|date=April 18, 2014|access-date=December 14, 2020<!-- Nnote, the date is from the page metadata, it's not noted on the article-->|work=Feminine Collective}}</ref> During a 2018 interview, she revealed a darker side of the relationship with the man she called "the love of my life!": "The love of my life, 25 years ago, John Drummond, a brilliant and boisterous Scotsman with a 'Thatcheresque' accent had, especially under the influence of a few scotches, beers, or wine, become quite destructive towards me. He is the only one who managed to deprive me of my self-esteem or identity, temporarily. He used to say that a British man’s way of saying 'I love you' is to put his woman down."<ref>{{Cite web|url=https://www.expatica.com/nl/living/|title=Living in the Netherlands Archives|website=Expat Guide to the Netherlands &#124; Expatica}}</ref> Drummond is listed as one of her husbands.<ref>{{Cite web|url=https://www.nndb.com/people/322/000025247/|title=Xaviera Hollander|website=www.nndb.com}}</ref> Hollander claimed to have "turned gay" around 1997, establishing a long-term relationship with a Dutch poet called Dia.<ref name = advocate /> In January 2007, she married a Dutch man, Philip de Haan, in Amsterdam.<ref name="Faber">{{cite web |last1=Faber |first1=Judy |title=Happy Hooker Gets Hitched |url=https://www.cbsnews.com/news/happy-hooker-gets-hitched/ |website=www.cbsnews.com |access-date=10 December 2018 |language=en |date=2 January 2007}}</ref>

==Other works==
Hollander has been depicted in film five times:
* ''[[The Life and Times of Xaviera Hollander]]'' (1974, [[X rating|rated X]]) – Samantha McLaren
* ''The Best Part of a Man'' (1975) – Artistae Stiftung
* ''[[The Happy Hooker (film)|The Happy Hooker]]'' (1975) – [[Lynn Redgrave]]
* ''[[The Happy Hooker Goes to Washington]]'' (1977) – [[Joey Heatherton]]
* ''[[The Happy Hooker Goes Hollywood]]'' (1980) – [[Martine Beswick]]

She appears in at least two films:
* ''[[My Pleasure Is My Business]]'' (1975, [[Al Waxman]]) as Gabrielle
* ''Xaviera Hollander, the Happy Hooker: Portrait of a Sexual Revolutionary'', a 2008 documentary directed, jointly produced, photographed and edited by Robert Dunlap. Hollander made additional contributions to the script.<ref>{{cite web |title=Documentary, The Happy Hooker: Portrait of a Sexual Revolutionary |url=https://www.xavierahollander.com/shop/product/2-xaviera-s-documentary.html |publisher=www.xavierahollander.com |access-date=10 December 2018}}</ref>

In 1989, Hollander made an [[After Dark (TV programme)#Xaviera Hollander and "Men and Women: What's the Difference?"|extended appearance]] on British discussion programme ''[[After Dark (TV programme)|After Dark]]'', alongside [[Mary Stott]], [[Malcolm Bennett]] and [[Hans Eysenck]], among others.

A musical about her life was written and composed by Richard Hansom and Warren Wills.<ref>{{cite web |title=Happy Hooker Musical |url=https://www.xavierahollander.com/happy-booker/happy-hooker-musical.html |website=www.xavierahollander.com |access-date=10 December 2018}}</ref>

== Books==
=== Non-fiction ===
* {{Cite book|title=The Happy Hooker: My Own Story |publisher=Sphere Books |year=1971 |isbn=978-0-900735-13-4 |author1=Robin Moore|author2=Yvonne Dunleavy|author3=Xaviera de Vries Hollander |title-link=The Happy Hooker }} Moore took Hollander's dictation, and Dunleavy transcribed the results.
* {{Cite book |title=Letters to the Happy Hooker |location=New York |publisher=Warner Paperback Library |year=1973 |isbn=978-0-446-78277-7 |url=https://archive.org/details/letterstohappyho00holl }}
* {{Cite book|title=Xaviera!: Her Continuing Adventures |location=New York |publisher=Warner Paperback Library |year=1973 }}
* {{Cite book|title=Xaviera Goes Wild |location=New York |publisher=Warner Paperback Library |year=1974 }}
* {{Cite book|title=Xaviera on the Best Part of a Man |location=New York |publisher=New American Library |year=1975 }}
* {{Cite book|title=Xaviera Meets Marilyn Chambers |location=New York |publisher=Warner Paperback Library |year=1976 |author=Marilyn Chambers }}
* {{Cite book|title=Xaviera's Supersex: Her Personal Techniques for Total Lovemaking |location=New York |publisher=New American Library |year=1976 }}
* {{Cite book|title=Xaviera's Fantastic Sex |location=New York |publisher=New American Library |year=1978 |isbn=978-0-451-15104-9 }} <!--Reprint of ''Xaviera's Supersex''? -->
* {{Cite book|title=Xaviera's Magic Mushrooms |location=Sevenoaks, Kent |publisher=New English Library |year=1981 |isbn=978-0-450-05064-0 }}
* {{Cite book|title=The Inner Circle |location=London |publisher=Granada |year=1983 }}
* {{Cite book|title=Fiesta of the Flesh |location=London |publisher=Panther |year=1984 |isbn=978-0-586-06195-4 }}
* {{Cite book|title=The Best of Xaviera |location=Sydney |publisher=Horwitz Grahame |year=1985 |isbn=978-0-7255-1841-7 }}
* {{Cite book|title=Knights in the Garden of Spain |location=London |publisher=Grafton |year=1988 |isbn=978-0-586-07432-9 }}
* {{Cite book |title=Child No More: A Memoir |location=New York |publisher=ReganBooks |year=2002 |isbn=978-0-06-001417-9 |url=https://archive.org/details/childnomorememoi00holl }}
* {{Cite book|title=The Happy Hooker's Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex: 69 Orgasmic Ways to Pleasure a Woman |location=New York |publisher=[[Skyhorse Pub]] |year=2008 |isbn=978-1-60239-240-3 }}
* {{Cite book|url=https://xavierahollander.com/shop/books-dvd-s-and-cd-s/product/19-wall-talk-i-the-prudent-bird-of-paradise.html |title= Wall Talk I: Prudent Bird of Paradise |location=Amsterdam |publisher=Amazon |year=2024 }}
* {{Cite book|url=https://xavierahollander.com/shop/books-dvd-s-and-cd-s/product/20-wall-talk-ii-xaviera%E2%80%99s-happy-house-signed-dedicated-by-xaviera.html |title= Wall Talk II: Xaviera's Happy House |location=Amsterdam |publisher=Amazon |year=2024 }}
* {{Cite book|url=https://xavierahollander.com/shop/books-dvd-s-and-cd-s/product/21-wall-talk-iii-getting-old-is-not-for-sissies-signed-dedicated-by-xaviera.html |title=Wall Talk III: Getting Old is Not for Sissies |location=Amsterdam |publisher=Amazon |year=2024 }}

===Fiction===
* {{Cite book |title=Lucinda, My Lovely |location=Henley-on-Thames |year=1983 |isbn=978-0-85628-118-1 |last1=Hollander |first1=Xaviera |url=https://archive.org/details/lucindamylovely00xavi }}
* {{Cite book|title=Lucinda: Hot Nights on Xanthos |location=Henley-on-Thames |year=1984 |isbn=978-0-85628-129-7 |quote=<small>(Originally published 1983)</small> |last1=Hollander |first1=Xaviera }}
* {{Cite book|title=Erotic Enterprises Inc |location=Henley-on-Thames |publisher=Ellis |year=1985 |isbn=978-0-85628-142-6 }}
* Co-written with John Drummond: {{Cite book|title=Happily Hooked |publisher=Panther |year=1985 |isbn=0-586-06399-4 <!--|coauthors=John Drummond--> }}
* {{Cite book|title=The Erotic Adventures of Sandra |year=1986 }}
* ''The Golden Phallus of Osiris Trilogy'':
** {{Cite book|title=Yours Fatally! |location=London |year=1987 |isbn=978-0-586-07039-0 |last1=Hollander |first1=Xaviera }}
** {{Cite book|title=The Kiss of the Serpent |publisher=Grafton |year=1987 |isbn=978-0-586-07040-6 }}
** {{Cite book|title=Prisoner of the Firebird |publisher=Grafton |year=1988 |isbn=978-0-586-07041-3 }}
* Co-written with John Drummond: {{Cite book|title=Let's Get Moving |publisher=Grafton |year=1988 |isbn=0-586-07431-7 <!--|coauthors=John Drummond -->}}
* {{Cite book|title=Lucinda and Other Lovelies |publisher=Ellis |year=1990 |isbn=978-0-85628-198-3 |quote=<small>Collects ''Lucinda, My Lovely''; ''Lucinda: Hot Nights on Xanthos''; and ''Erotic Enterprises Inc.''</small> }}

==See also==
* [[Polly Adler]]

==References==
{{Reflist}}

==External links==
* {{Official website|http://www.xavierahollander.com/}}
* {{IMDb name|390904}}

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