Editing Lily Tomlin (section)

== Personal life ==
[[File:LilyTomlinApr2013.jpg|thumb|right|Tomlin in April 2013]]

=== Marriage ===
Tomlin met her future wife, writer [[Jane Wagner]], in March 1971. After watching the after-school TV special ''J.T.'' written by Wagner, Tomlin invited Wagner to Los Angeles to collaborate on Tomlin's comedy LP album ''And That's The Truth''.<ref name=metro2006>Tomlin, in {{cite news | url = http://www.metroweekly.com/feature/?ak=2088 | title = Lily Tomlin | first = Randy | last = Shulman | work = [[Metro Weekly]] | location = [[Washington, D.C.]] | date = April 27, 2006 | access-date = January 7, 2014 | archive-date = April 12, 2014 | archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20140412222426/http://metroweekly.com/feature/?ak=2088 | url-status = live }}</ref> The couple did not have a formal [[coming out]]. Tomlin said in 2006:

{{blockquote|I certainly never called a press conference or anything like that. [Back in the 1970s,] people didn't write about it. Even if they knew, they would [refer to Jane as] "Lily's collaborator", things like that. Some journalists are just motivated by their own sense of what they want to say or what they feel comfortable saying or writing about. In '77, I was on the cover of ''Time''. The same week I had a big story in ''Newsweek''. In one of the magazines it says I live alone, and the other magazine said I live with Jane Wagner. Unless you were so really adamantly out, and had made some declaration at some press conference, people back then didn't write about your relationship. In '75 I was making the ''Modern Scream'' album and Jane and I were in the studio. My publicist called me and said, "''Time'' will give you the cover if you'll come out." I was more offended than anything that they thought we'd make a deal. But that was '75—it would have been a hard thing to do at that time.<ref name=metro2006 />}}

Tomlin stated in 2008, "Everybody in the industry was certainly aware of my sexuality and of Jane ... in interviews, I always reference Jane and talk about Jane, but they don't always write about it."<ref>{{cite news|last=Smith|first=Liz|author-link=Liz Smith (journalist)|title=Was life a 'Cabaret' for Bob Fosse? Yes, no, maybe|url=http://www.chicagotribune.com/entertainment/sns-201401021600–tms–lizsmittr–x-a20140103-20140103,0,6831114.story|publisher=[[Tribune Media Services|Tribune Content Agency]]|date=January 3, 2014|access-date=January 7, 2014|df=mdy-all}}{{dead link|date=July 2019|bot=medic}}{{cbignore|bot=medic}}</ref> In 2015, Tomlin said, "I wasn't totally forthcoming. Everybody in the business knew I was gay, and certainly everybody I worked with and everything like that." Tomlin has been generally quiet about her sexuality.<ref>{{cite web |author1=Josh Jackman |title=Lily Tomlin explains why she refused to come out on the cover of Time |url=https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2019/01/16/lily-tomlin-cover-time-magazine/ |website=PinkNews |date=January 16, 2019 |access-date=July 3, 2021 |archive-date=July 11, 2024 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20240711040011/https://www.thepinknews.com/2019/01/16/lily-tomlin-cover-time-magazine/ |url-status=live }}</ref> On December 31, 2013, Tomlin and Wagner married in a private ceremony in Los Angeles after 42 years together.<ref>{{cite news | title = Lily Tomlin Marries Jane Wagner After 42 Years Together | url = https://people.com/celebrity/lily-tomlin-marries-jane-wagner-after-42-years-together/ | first = Stephen M. | last = Silverman | work = [[People (magazine)|People]] | date = January 7, 2014 | access-date = January 7, 2014 | archive-date = January 8, 2014 | archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20140108013351/http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20772649,00.html | url-status = live }}</ref><ref>{{cite web|last1=Takeda|first1=Allison|title=Lily Tomlin Marries Girlfriend Jane Wagner After 42 Years Together: "They Are Very Happy," Rep Says|date=January 7, 2014|url=http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/lily-tomlin-marries-girlfriend-jane-wagner-after-42-years-201471|access-date=October 19, 2015|archive-date=September 10, 2015|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20150910093500/http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/lily-tomlin-marries-girlfriend-jane-wagner-after-42-years-201471|url-status=live}}</ref>

=== Beliefs and activism ===
Tomlin has been involved in a number of [[feminist]] and gay-friendly film productions, and on her 1975 album ''Modern Scream'' she pokes fun at [[Heterosexuality|straight]] actors who make a point of distancing themselves from their gay and lesbian characters{{mdash}}answering the pseudo-interview question, she replies: "How did it feel to play a heterosexual? I've seen these women all my life, I know how they walk, I know how they talk ..."<ref name="advocate"/> In 2013, Tomlin and Wagner worked together on the film ''[[An Apology to Elephants]]'', which Wagner wrote and Tomlin narrated.<ref>{{cite web |url=http://inthemixxshow.com/3555/fall-season-2013-episode-6 |title=Fall Season 2013: Episode 6 &#124; In the Mixx |publisher=Inthemixxshow.com |date=2013-10-17 |access-date=2014-06-29 |archive-date=November 6, 2018 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20181106215213/http://inthemixxshow.com/3555/fall-season-2013-episode-6 |url-status=dead }}</ref>