Editing Transactional analysis (section)

==Emotional blackmail==
{{Main|Emotional blackmail}}
Emotional blackmail is a term coined by psychotherapist [[Susan Forward|Dr. Susan Forward]], about controlling people in relationships and the theory that [[fear]], [[obligation]], and [[Guilt (emotion)|guilt]] (FOG) are the transactional dynamics at play between the controller and the person being controlled. Understanding these dynamics are useful to anyone trying to extricate from the [[controlling behavior]] of another person, and deal with their own compulsions to do things that are uncomfortable, undesirable, burdensome, or self-sacrificing for others.<ref name="BPDFamily">{{Cite news|last=Johnson|first=R. Skip|title=Emotional Blackmail: Fear, Obligation and Guilt (FOG) |url=http://bpdfamily.com/content/emotional-blackmail-fear-obligation-and-guilt-fog|website=[[BPDFamily.com]]|date=August 16, 2014|access-date=October 18, 2014}}</ref>

Forward and Frazier identify four blackmail types each with their own [[mental manipulation]] style:<ref name="Forward">Susan Forward/Donna Frazier, ''Emotional Blackmail'' (London 1997) pp. 28, 82, 145, 169.</ref>
{| class="wikitable"
|-
! Type
! Example
|-
| '''Punisher's threat''' 
| Eat the food I cooked for you or I'll hurt you.
|-
| '''Self-punisher's threat''' 
| Eat the food I cooked for you or I'll hurt myself.
|-
| '''Sufferer's threat''' 
| Eat the food I cooked for you. I was saving it for myself. I wonder what will happen now.
|-
| '''Tantalizer's threat''' 
| Eat the food I cooked for you and you just may get a really yummy dessert.
|}

There are different levels of demands—demands that are of little consequence, demands that involve important issues or personal [[integrity]], demands that affect major life decisions, and/or demands that are dangerous or illegal.<ref name="BPDFamily"/>