Editing Polyamory (section)

=== Non-possessiveness ===
Some polyamorists view excessive restrictions on other deep relationships as less than desirable, as such restrictions can be used to replace trust with a framework of ownership and control. It is usually preferred or encouraged that a polyamorist strive to view their partners' other significant others, often referred to as [[Metamour|metamours]] or OSOs,<ref name="Black and Poly 2017">{{cite web |title=Black and Poly Dictionary |website=Black and Poly |date=November 13, 2017 |url=http://blackandpoly.org/dictionary |access-date=May 10, 2010 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20190701004527/http://blackandpoly.org/dictionary/ |archive-date=July 1, 2019 |url-status=live }}</ref> in terms of the gain to their partners' lives rather than a threat to their own ([[#Compersion|compersion]]). Therefore, jealousy and possessiveness are generally viewed not so much as something to avoid or structure the relationships around but as responses that should be explored, understood, and resolved within each individual, with compersion as a goal.<ref>{{Cite journal|last=Attridge|first=Mark|date=February 4, 2013|title=Jealousy and Relationship Closeness|journal=SAGE Open|volume=3|issue=1|page=215824401347605|doi=10.1177/2158244013476054|doi-access=free}}</ref> This is related to one of the types of polyamory, which is non-hierarchical, where "no one relationship is prioritized above the rest"<ref name="weiger" /> and the fact that polyamorists insist on working through problems in their relationships "through open communication, patience, and honesty."<ref name="bennett" />