Editing Warren Farrell (section)

=== ''Why Men Are the Way They Are'' ===
Farrell's books each contain personal introductions that describe his perspective on how aspects of public consciousness and his own personal development led to the book. By the mid-1980s, Farrell was writing that both the role-reversal exercises and the women and men's groups allowed him to hear women's increasing anger toward men, and also learn about men's feelings of being misrepresented.<ref>{{citation | last = Farrell | first = Warren | contribution = Introduction | editor-last1 = Farrell | editor-first1 = Warren | editor-last2 = Sterba | editor-first2 = James P. | title = Why men are the way they are: the male-female dynamic | publisher = Bantam | location = Toronto & London | year = 1990 | isbn = 978-0-553-17628-5 }}</ref> He wrote ''Why Men Are The Way They Are''<ref name="Dynamic_9780553176285" /> to answer women's questions about men in a way he hoped rang true for the men.

He distinguished between what he believed to be each sex's primary fantasies and primary needs, stating that "both sexes fell in love with members of the other sex who are the least capable of loving: women with men who are successful; men with women who are young and beautiful."<ref>{{citation | last = Farrell | first = Warren | contribution = Chapter 5 | editor-last = Farrell | editor-first = Warren | title = Why men are the way they are: the male-female dynamic | publisher = Bantam | location = Toronto & London | year = 1990 | isbn = 978-0-553-17628-5 }}</ref><ref name="MPHSspeech.pdf">{{cite book | last = Farrell | first = Warren | title = 15 intriguing thoughts about men, women and relationships (for Midland Park High School's 50th Reunion) | url = http://206.130.104.114/PDFsdotcom/MPHSspeech.pdf | quote = Both sexes are biologically programmed to fall in love with the members of the opposite sex who are the least capable of loving. Men fall in love with women who are young and therefore less mature in their relationship skills, and beautiful, which usually means men compete to take care of them; women fall in love with men who are successful without realizing that many of the qualities it takes to be successful at work are inversely related to what it takes to be successful in love. | date = September 10, 2011 | archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20170808073354/http://206.130.104.114/PDFsdotcom/MPHSspeech.pdf | archive-date = August 8, 2017 | url-status = live }}</ref> He said that women feel disappointed because, "the qualities it takes to be successful at work are often in tension with the qualities it takes to be successful in love." He also said that men feel disappointed because, "a young and beautiful woman ('genetic celebrity') often learns more about receiving, not giving, while older and less-attractive women often learn more about giving and doing for others, which is more compatible with love."<ref name="Dynamic_9780553176285" />