Editing J. R. R. Tolkien (section)

=== Courtship and marriage ===

At the age of 16, Tolkien met [[Edith Tolkien|Edith Mary Bratt]], who was three years his senior, when he and his brother Hilary moved into the boarding house where she lived in Duchess Road, [[Edgbaston]]. According to Humphrey Carpenter, "Edith and Ronald took to frequenting Birmingham teashops, especially one which had a balcony overlooking the pavement. There they would sit and throw sugarlumps into the hats of passers-by, moving to the next table when the sugar bowl was empty. ... With two people of their personalities and in their position, romance was bound to flourish. Both were orphans in need of affection, and they found that they could give it to each other. During the summer of 1909, they decided that they were in love."<ref>{{harvnb|Carpenter|1977|p=40}}</ref>

His guardian, Father Morgan, considered it "altogether unfortunate"<ref name="Letters, No. 43" group="T">{{harvnb|Carpenter|Tolkien|1981|loc=''Letters'' #43 to Michael Tolkien, 6–8 March 1941}}</ref> that his surrogate son was romantically involved with an older, [[Church of England|Protestant]] woman; Tolkien wrote that the combined tensions contributed to his having "muffed [his] exams".<ref name="Letters, No. 43" group="T" /> Morgan prohibited him from meeting, talking to, or even corresponding with Edith until he was 21. Tolkien obeyed this prohibition to the letter,<ref>{{cite web |last=Doughan |first=David |year=2002 |title=War, Lost Tales and Academia |url=http://www.tolkiensociety.org/tolkien/biography.html#2 |url-status=live |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20060303050751/http://www.tolkiensociety.org/tolkien/biography.html |archive-date=3 March 2006 |website=J. R. R. Tolkien: A Biographical Sketch}}</ref> with one notable early exception, over which Father Morgan threatened to cut short his university career if he did not stop.<ref>{{harvnb|Carpenter|1977|p=43}}</ref>

On the evening of his 21st birthday, Tolkien wrote to Edith, who was living with family friend C. H. Jessop at [[Cheltenham]]. He declared that he had never ceased to love her, and asked her to marry him. Edith replied that she had already accepted the proposal of George Field, the brother of one of her closest school friends. But Edith said she had agreed to marry Field only because she felt "on the shelf" and had begun to doubt that Tolkien still cared for her. She explained that, because of Tolkien's letter, everything had changed.<ref name="Carpenter 1977 p67" />

On 8 January 1913, Tolkien travelled by train to Cheltenham and was met on the platform by Edith. The two took a walk into the countryside, sat under a railway viaduct, and talked. By the end of the day, Edith had agreed to accept Tolkien's proposal. She wrote to Field and returned her engagement ring. Field was "dreadfully upset at first", and the Field family was "insulted and angry".<ref name="Carpenter 1977 p67">{{harvnb|Carpenter|1977|pp=67–69}}</ref> Upon learning of Edith's new plans, Jessop wrote to her guardian, "I have nothing to say against Tolkien, he is a cultured gentleman, but his prospects are poor in the extreme, and when he will be in a position to marry I cannot imagine. Had he adopted a profession it would have been different."<ref>{{harvnb|Tolkien|Tolkien|1992|p=34}}</ref>

Following their engagement, Edith reluctantly announced that she was converting to Catholicism at Tolkien's insistence. Jessop, "like many others of his age and class ... strongly [[Anti-Catholicism in the United Kingdom|anti-Catholic]]", was infuriated, and he ordered Edith to find other lodgings.<ref>{{harvnb|Carpenter|1977|p=73}}</ref>

Edith Bratt and Ronald Tolkien were formally engaged at Birmingham in January 1913, and married at [[St Mary Immaculate Roman Catholic Church, Warwick|St Mary Immaculate Catholic Church]] at [[Warwick]], on 22 March 1916.<ref>{{harvnb|Carpenter|1977|p=86}}</ref> In his 1941 letter to Michael, Tolkien expressed admiration for his wife's willingness to marry a man with no job, little money, and no prospects except the likelihood of being killed in the Great War.<ref name="Letters, No. 43" group="T" />