Editing Alice Miller (psychologist) (section)

===''The Drama of the Gifted Child''<small> (''Das Drama des begabten Kindes'', 1979) </small>===

In her first book (also published under the titles ''Prisoners of Childhood'' and ''The Drama of Being a Child''), Miller defined and elaborated the [[personality]] manifestations of childhood trauma. She addressed the two reactions to the loss of love in childhood, [[depression (mood)|depression]] and [[grandiosity]]; the inner prison, the vicious circle of [[contempt]], [[repressed memories]], the [[etiology]] of depression, and how childhood trauma manifests itself in the adult.<ref>{{cite book|last=Miller|first=Alice|title=The Drama of the Gifted Child|url=https://archive.org/details/dramaofgiftedchi00millrich|url-access=registration|year=1981|publisher=Basic Books|isbn=9780465016945}}</ref>

Miller writes:

<blockquote>"Quite often I have been faced with patients who have been praised and admired for their talents and their achievements. According to prevailing, general attitudes these people{{--}}the pride of their parents{{--}}should have had a strong stable sense of self-assurance. But exactly the opposite is the case… In my work with these people, I found that every one of them has a childhood history that seems significant to me:
* There was a ''mother'' who at the core was emotionally insecure, and who depended for her narcissistic equilibrium on the child behaving, or acting, in a particular way. This mother was able to hide her insecurity from the child and from everyone else behind a hard, authoritarian and even totalitarian façade.
* This child had an amazing ability to perceive and respond intuitively, that is, unconsciously, to this need of the mother or of both parents, for him to take on the role that had unconsciously been assigned to him.
* This role secured "love" for the child{{--}}that is, his parents' exploitation. He could sense that he was needed, and this need, guaranteed him a measure of existential security.
This ability is then extended and perfected. Later, these children not only become mothers (confidantes, advisers, supporters) of their own mothers, but also take over the responsibility for their siblings and eventually develop a special sensitivity to unconscious signals manifesting the needs of others."<ref>{{cite book|last=Miller|first=Alice|title=The Drama of the Gifted Child|year=1979|publisher=Basic Books|pages=7–9}}</ref></blockquote>