Editing Polyamory (section)

=== Fidelity and loyalty ===
[[File:Polyamorie.jpg|thumb|left|Three people in a polyamorous relationship.]]
A large percentage of polyamorists define ''fidelity'' not as sexual exclusivity, but as faithfulness to the promises and agreements made about a relationship.<ref>{{Cite journal|last=Zhu|first=Jingshu|date=January 2018|title=We're Not Cheaters: Polyamory, Mixed-Orientation Marriage and the Construction of Radical Honesty|journal=Social Science|url=http://gjss.org/sites/default/files/issues/chapters/papers/GjSS%20Vol%2014-1%20Zhu.pdf|access-date=December 24, 2020|volume=14|issue=1|archive-date=February 28, 2021|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20210228062959/http://gjss.org/sites/default/files/issues/chapters/papers/GjSS%20Vol%2014-1%20Zhu.pdf|url-status=live}}</ref><ref>{{cite news |last=Sudeep |first=Theres |date=November 28, 2020 |title=In Bengaluru, many couples are exploring polyamory |url=https://www.deccanherald.com/metrolife/metrolife-your-bond-with-bengaluru/in-bengaluru-many-couples-are-exploring-polyamory-920842.html |work=[[Deccan Herald]] |location=[[Bangalore]], [[Karnataka]], [[India]] |access-date=December 11, 2020 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20201204102811/https://www.deccanherald.com/metrolife/metrolife-your-bond-with-bengaluru/in-bengaluru-many-couples-are-exploring-polyamory-920842.html |archive-date=December 4, 2020 |url-status=live}}</ref><ref name="cook">{{cite journal |last1=Cook |first1=Elaine |date=December 12, 2005 |title=Commitment in Polyamory |url=http://www.ejhs.org/volume8/cook1.htm |journal=[[Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality]] |volume=8 |access-date=December 23, 2020 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20201127014452/http://www.ejhs.org/volume8/cook1.htm |archive-date=November 27, 2020 }}</ref> As a relational practice, polyamory sustains a vast variety of open relationship or multi-partner constellations, which can differ in definition and grades of intensity, closeness and commitment.<ref name="Fidelity">{{cite journal|last1=Klesse|first1=Christian|s2cid=144546531|title=Polyamory: Intimate practice, identity or sexual orientation?|journal=Sexualities|date=February 5, 2014|volume=17|issue=1–2|page=81|doi=10.1177/1363460713511096|url=https://e-space.mmu.ac.uk/607287/2/Polyorientation%20CK%20110102013final..pdf|access-date=March 12, 2020|archive-date=June 29, 2021|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20210629232415/https://e-space.mmu.ac.uk/607287/2/Polyorientation%20CK%20110102013final..pdf|url-status=live}}</ref> Specifically, 
polyamory can take the forms of a [[Ménage à trois|triad]]{{efn|The term "triad" for this type of arrangement was coined by [[Isaac Asimov]] in his 1972 novel ''[[The Gods Themselves]]''.}} of three people in an intimate relationship, a poly family of more than three people, one person as the pivot point of a relationship (a "vee"), a couple in a two-person relationship which portrays other relationships on their own, and various other intimate networks of individuals.<ref name="weiger" /><ref name="bennett" /><ref name="davidson">{{cite journal |last1=Davidson |first1=Joy |date=April 16, 2002 |title=Working with Polyamorous Clients in the Clinical Setting |url=http://www.ejhs.org/volume5/polyoutline.html |journal=[[Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality]] |volume=5 |access-date=December 23, 2020 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20200919075803/http://www.ejhs.org/volume5/polyoutline.html |archive-date=September 19, 2020 }} Also delivered to the [[Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality]], Western Regional Conference, April 2002.</ref> There are also those who are swingers and engage in polyamory or engage in poly-dating.<ref name="davidson" /> A poly family is sometimes called '''kitchen table polyamory''',<ref>{{cite web |url=https://torontolife.com/city/how-a-polyamorous-toronto-man-is-managing-his-four-romantic-relationships-remotely/ |title=How a polyamorous Toronto man is managing his four romantic relationships remotely |last=Slone |first=Isabel B. |date=June 9, 2020 |website=Toronto Life |access-date=December 24, 2020 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20200702082808/https://torontolife.com/city/how-a-polyamorous-toronto-man-is-managing-his-four-romantic-relationships-remotely/ |archive-date=July 2, 2020 |url-status=live}}</ref> a style of polyamory in which all members of a particular [[polycule]] are comfortable and connected enough with each other that it is not uncommon for them to literally gather around the kitchen table, as they may spend holidays, birthdays, or other important times together as a large group. This style emphasizes family-style connections, and not all members are necessarily sexually or romantically involved with every other person in the group.<ref name=":6">{{Cite journal|last1=Bergdall|first1=Melissa K.|last2=Blumer|first2=Markie L. C.|s2cid=143233814|date=January 2, 2015|title=More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory, by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert|journal=Journal of Feminist Family Therapy|volume=27|issue=1|pages=40–45|doi=10.1080/08952833.2015.1005963|issn=0895-2833}}</ref><ref name=":7">{{Cite book|title=More than two : a practical guide to ethical polyamory|last1=Veaux|first1=Franklin|last2=Rickert|first2=Eve|isbn=9780991399703|oclc=878396611|year=2014|publisher=Thorntree Press }}</ref> 

Other styles of polyamory include '''parallel polyamory''', where members of individual relationships prefer not to meet or know details of their partners' other relationships,<ref name=":6" /><ref name=":7" /> '''solo polyamory''' defines non-monogamous individuals who do not want a primary partner<ref>{{Cite journal |last=Zimmerman |first=Kevin J. |date=July 2012 |title=Clients in Sexually Open Relationships: Considerations for Therapists |url=http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/08952833.2012.648143 |journal=Journal of Feminist Family Therapy |language=en |volume=24 |issue=3 |pages=272–289 |doi=10.1080/08952833.2012.648143 |issn=0895-2833}}</ref> and may resist the "relationship escalator" (an idea that relationships must follow a progression, or "escalator" from dating, to being exclusive, to becoming engaged, getting married, and having children).<ref name="auto">{{cite web|url=https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201310/solo-polyamory-singleish-single-poly|title=Solo Polyamory, Singleish, Single & Poly|last=Sheff|first=Elisabeth A.|date=October 14, 2013|website=[[Psychology Today]]|archive-url=https://archive.today/20201224202156/https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201310/solo-polyamory-singleish-single-poly|archive-date=December 24, 2020|url-status=live|access-date=December 24, 2020}}</ref><ref name="auto5">{{cite web |last=Dodgson |first=Lindsay |url=https://www.insider.com/dark-side-of-polyamory-2019-2 |title=There's a dark side of polyamory that nobody talks about |date=February 19, 2019 |website=[[Insider Inc.|Insider]] |archive-url=https://archive.today/20200625233415/https://www.insider.com/dark-side-of-polyamory-2019-2 |archive-date=June 25, 2020 |url-status=live |access-date=December 24, 2020 }}</ref> For some, polyamory functions as an umbrella term for the multiple approaches of 'responsible non-monogamy'.<ref name="Fidelity" /> A secret sexual relationship that violates those accords would be seen as a breach of fidelity. Polyamorists generally base definitions of ''commitment'' on considerations other than sexual exclusivity, e.g., "trust and honesty" or "growing old together".<ref>{{cite web |first=Elaine |last=Cook |title=Commitment in Polyamorous Relationships |url=http://www.aphroweb.net/papers/thesis/index.htm |year=2005 |access-date=July 10, 2006 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20061004143344/http://aphroweb.net/papers/thesis/index.htm |archive-date=October 4, 2006 |url-status=live }}</ref> In an article in ''[[Men's Health]]'', Zachary Zane states that commitment in a polyamorous relationship means that "you will be there for that person", supporting them, taking care of them, and loving them.<ref>{{cite web |url=https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a34823557/commitment-polyamorous-relationship/ |title=I'm in a Loving, Committed Relationship. I'm Also Polyamorous |last=Zane |first=Zachary |date=December 9, 2020 |website=[[Men's Health]] |access-date=December 24, 2020 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20201216233451/https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a34823557/commitment-polyamorous-relationship/ |archive-date=December 16, 2020 |url-status=live}}</ref>