Editing Michael Collins (Irish leader) (section)

==Personal life==
Collins' elderly father, who was 75 when his youngest child was born, inspired his fondness and respect for older people. His mother, who had spent her youth caring for her own invalid mother and raising her own brothers and sisters, was a powerful influence. The entire management of the Collins farm fell to her, as her husband succumbed to old age and died. In a society which honoured hospitality as a prime virtue, Mrs Collins was eulogised as "a hostess in ten thousand". Her five daughters avowedly doted on their youngest brother.<ref name="Coogan, TP Michael Collins 1990"/>{{page needed|date=July 2020}} He enjoyed rough-housing and outdoor sports. Having won a local wrestling championship while he was still a boy, he is said to have made a pastime of challenging larger, older opponents, with frequent success. A very fit, active man throughout life, in the most stressful times he continued to enjoy wrestling as a form of relaxation and valued friendships which afforded opportunities to share athletic pursuits.<ref name="Coogan, TP Michael Collins 1990"/>{{page needed|date=July 2020}} He could be abrasive, demanding, and inconsiderate of those around him, but frequently made up for it with gestures such as confectionery and other small gifts.<ref>O'Broin, Leon. ''Michael Collins'', Dublin, Gill & MacMillan 1980.{{Page needed|date=March 2018}}</ref>{{page needed|date=August 2020}}

Unlike some of his political opponents, he had many close personal friendships within the movement. It has been justly said that while some were devoted to "the idea of Ireland", Collins was a people person whose patriotism was rooted in affection and respect for the people of Ireland around him. Among his famous last words is the final entry in his pocket diary, written on the journey that ended his life, "The people are splendid."<ref>Michael Collins field diary, 22 August 1922</ref><ref name="ReferenceE"/>{{page needed|date=August 2020}}<ref name="ReferenceH"/>{{page needed|date=August 2020}}
[[File:Kitty Kiernan.jpg|200px|right|thumb|Kitty Kiernan]]
In 1921–22, he became engaged to [[Kitty Kiernan]]. Under Kiernan's influence, he would resume Catholic religious practice (though retaining secularism as a political position), despite his previous hostility to the Irish Catholic hierarchy. He made a general confession before his departure for London to negotiate the Anglo-Irish Treaty. While in London, his practice of lighting votive candles for Kiernan developed a habit of attending mass daily, usually at the [[Brompton Oratory]]. In letters between the two, he credits Kiernan as having given him a newfound appreciation of [[Confession (religion)|Confession]] and [[Eucharist|Communion]]. Collins attended Mass regularly throughout the ensuing civil war.<ref>{{Cite journal|last=Kenny|first=Mary|date=2007|title=Michael Collins's Religious Faith|url=http://www.jstor.org/stable/25660515|journal=Studies: An Irish Quarterly Review|volume=96|issue=384|pages=423–431|jstor=25660515|issn=0039-3495|access-date=1 July 2020|archive-date=12 July 2020|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20200712060704/https://www.jstor.org/stable/25660515|url-status=live}}</ref>

Collins was a complex man whose character abounded in contradictions. He seems never to have pursued personal profit. This characteristic was exemplified by a letter he wrote on 4 August 1922 to his canvassing agent; offering to pay half the bill for a hired election car because some of the journeys had been for personal trips.<ref>Kennerk, Barry and Alison Healy, Evidence of an Irish Politician's Scruples on Expenses...in 1922 in ''Irish Times'', 8 November 2010</ref> While clearly fond of command and keen to take charge, he had an equal appetite for input and advice from people at every level of the organisation, prompting the comment that "he took advice from his chauffeur."<ref name="ReferenceG"/>{{page needed|date=August 2020}} Although acknowledged by friends and foes as "head centre" of the movement, he continually chose a title just short of actual head of state; becoming Chairman of the Provisional Government only after the abdication of half the Dáil forced him to do so. While his official and personal correspondence records his solicitous care for the wants of insurgents in need, during the war he showed no hesitation in ordering the death of opponents who threatened nationalist lives.<ref>Collins, Michael (Costello, Francis J., Ed.) ''Michael Collins in His Own Words'', Dublin, Gill & Macmillan, 1997</ref>{{page needed|date=July 2020}}

While mastermind of a clandestine military, he remained a public figure. When official head of the Free State government, he continued to cooperate in the IRA's secret operations. He was capable of bold, decisive actions on his own authority, which caused friction with his colleagues, such as his falling out with Cathal Brugha; but at critical junctures, he could also bow to majority decisions which were profoundly disadvantageous and dangerous to his own interests, such as his appointment to the Treaty negotiating team.