Editing Henry Morton Stanley (section)

===Overview===
Having survived for ten years of his childhood in the [[workhouse]] at [[St Asaph]], it is postulated that he needed as a young man to be thought of as harder and more formidable than other explorers. This made him exaggerate punishments and hostile encounters. It was a serious error of judgement for which his reputation continues to pay a heavy price.<ref name="jeal2007" /> In the conclusion to his account of a fight with a fellow boy while in the workhouse, Stanley remarked, "Often since have I learned how necessary is the application of force for the establishment of order. There comes a time when pleading is of no avail."<ref>{{Cite book|last1=Stanley|first1=Henry M. (Henry Morton)|url=http://archive.org/details/autobiographyofs00stanrich|title=The autobiography of Sir Henry Morton Stanley|last2=Stanley|first2=Dorothy|date=1911|publisher=Boston : Houghton Mifflin|others=University of California Libraries}}</ref> He was accused of indiscriminate cruelty against Africans by contemporaries, which included men who served under him or otherwise had first-hand information.<ref name=":1" /> Stanley himself acknowledged, "Many people have called me hard, but they are always those whose presence a field of work could best dispense with, and whose nobility is too nice to be stained with toil."<ref name="Glave1892">{{Cite book | url=https://books.google.com/books?id=hoELAAAAIAAJ | last=Glave | first=E. J. | year=1892 | title=In Savage Africa; or, Six Years of Adventure in Congo-Land | location=New York  | publisher=R. H. Russell & Son}}</ref>

About society women, Stanley wrote that they were "toys to while slow time" and "trifling human beings."<ref name="Zabus2013"/> When he met the American journalist and traveller [[May French Sheldon|May Sheldon]], he was attracted because she was a modern woman who insisted on serious conversation and not social chit-chat. "She soon lets you know that chaff won't do," he wrote.<ref name="Reddall1890">{{cite book|last=Reddall|first=Henry Frederic |title=Henry M. Stanley: A Record of His Early Life and Struggles|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=jPmmGAAACAAJ|year=1890|publisher=R. Bonner's Sons|page=21}}</ref><ref name="Middleton1965">{{cite book|last=Middleton|first=Dorothy|title=Victorian Lady Travellers|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=PJ8SAQAAIAAJ|year=1965|publisher=Academy |location=Chicago|isbn=9780897330633|chapter=Ch IV |author-link=Dorothy Middleton}}</ref> The authors of the book ''The Congo: Plunder and Resistance'' tried to argue that Stanley had "a pathological fear of women, an inability to work with talented co-workers, and an obsequious love of the aristocratic rich,"<ref name="Plunder">{{cite book | url=https://books.google.com/books?id=IuPjmBB-gmsC | first1=David | last1=Renton | first2=David | last2=Seddon | first3=Leo | last3=Zeilig | title=The Congo: Plunder and Resistance | publisher=Zed Books | location=London | year=2007 | isbn=978-1842774854}}</ref> This is not only at odds with his opinions about society women, but Stanley's intimate correspondence in the [[Royal Museum for Central Africa|Royal Museum of Central Africa]], between him and his two fiancées, Katie Gough Roberts and [[Alice Pike Barney|Alice Pike]], as well as between him and the American journalist [[May Sheldon]], and between him and his wife [[Dorothy Tennant]], shows that he enjoyed close relationships with those women,<ref name="jeal2007"/><ref name="Imperial">{{Cite book | url=https://books.google.com/books?id=0qKyxaJMVF0C | title=Imperial Footprints: Henry Morton Stanley's African Journeys | last=Newman | first=James L. | publisher=Potomac Books, Inc. | date=2004 | location=Washington, D. C.| isbn=9781574885972 }}</ref> but both Roberts and [[Alice Pike Barney|Pike]] ultimately rejected him when he refused to abandon his protracted travels.<ref name="Zabus2013">{{Cite book | url=https://books.google.com/books?id=_GPlAgAAQBAJ | title=Out in Africa: Same-Sex Desire in Sub-Saharan Literatures & Cultures | last=Zabus | first=Chantal | publisher=Boydell & Brewer Ltd. | date=2013 | isbn=9781847010827 }}</ref><ref>Alice Pike to Stanley 17 November 1877; also 28, 13 Oct Nov and 4 December 1874; for Katie Gough Roberts see Jeal, 87–88.</ref>

When Stanley married [[Dorothy Tennant|Dorothy]], he invited his friend, [[Arthur Jephson|Arthur Mounteney Jephson]], to visit while they were on their honeymoon. Dr. Thomas Parke also came because Stanley was seriously ill at the time. Stanley's good relations with these two colleagues from the [[Emin Pasha Relief Expedition|Emin Pasha Expedition]] could possibly be seen as demonstrating that he could get along with colleagues.<ref name="Zabus2013" /><ref name="jeal2007" />