Editing Leonard Bernstein (section)

==Personal life==
{{stack|[[File:Leonard and Felicia Bernstein leaving for Israel, 1957 (cropped).jpg|thumb|Leonard and Felicia Bernstein leaving for Israel, 1957]]}}
Bernstein had two younger siblings, Shirley and Burton.<ref>{{Cite book |last=Bernstein |first=Shirley |title=Family matters, Sam, Jennie, and the kids |year=1982 |publisher=1982 |isbn=0671422766}}</ref> The three children lived with their parents, Samuel and Jennie, in the suburbs of [[Boston]], Massachusetts, in a community of mostly [[Eastern European Jewish]] immigrants.{{sfn|Shawn|2014|pp=15-20}}

Bernstein had [[asthma]], and the condition kept him from serving in the military during World War II.<ref>{{cite web |title=Leonard Bernstein, A Total Embrace of Music, Classical Notes, Peter Gutmann |url=http://www.classicalnotes.net/features/bernstein.html |website=classicalnotes.net}}</ref>
[[File:Leonard Bernstein and family, Fairfield, CT 1966.png|thumb|right|Bernstein with his wife (Felicia) and three children at their Fairfield, Connecticut home, 1966]]
Bernstein married actress [[Felicia Montealegre Cohn]] on September 9, 1951.{{sfn|Burton|1995|page=212}} They had three children: Jamie, Alexander, and Nina.{{sfn|Peyser|1987|pp=196, 204, 322}} The Bernstein family lived in New York City and [[Fairfield, Connecticut]], and maintained a close-knit atmosphere surrounded by extended family and friends.<ref>{{Cite news |date=May 9, 2023 |title=At Home with Jamie Bernstein|author=Allegra Anderson|work=[[The New York Times]]|url=https://www.nytimes.com/slideshow/2023/05/09/realestate/at-home-with-jamie-bernstein.html |access-date=June 26, 2023}}</ref> The family owned a house in [[Redding, Connecticut]], which they sold in 1964.<ref>{{Cite news |date=October 1, 1964 |title=Leonard Bernstein Sells House|work=[[The New York Times]]|url=https://www.nytimes.com/1964/10/01/archives/leonard-bernstein-sells-house.html |access-date=November 26, 2023}}</ref> Bernstein had a studio with a piano in each of his dwellings. The contents of his former studio at Fairfield, Connecticut are housed at the [[Indiana University Jacobs School of Music]].<ref>{{Cite web|title=Bernstein Collection|website=[[William and Gayle Cook Music Library]]|url=https://music.indiana.edu/about/cook-music-library/bernstein.html|access-date=June 26, 2023|publisher=[[Jacobs School of Music]], Indiana University Bloomington}}</ref>

Throughout his life, Bernstein had [[affair]]s with both men and women. In April 1943, he sought advice from [[Aaron Copland]] about living as a gay man in the public eye, a notion he brought up again in a letter to [[David Oppenheim (musician)|David Oppenheim]] in July of that year.{{sfn|Simeone|2013|page=133}} In a private letter written after their marriage, Felicia acknowledged her husband's sexual orientation. She wrote him: "You are a homosexual and may never change – you don't admit to the possibility of a double life, but if your peace of mind, your health, your whole nervous system depend on a certain sexual pattern what can you do?"<ref>{{Cite web |title=Felicia Bernstein to Leonard Bernstein, n.d. |url=https://www.loc.gov/item/musbernstein.100060233/ |access-date=June 26, 2023 |website=Library of Congress, Washington, D.C. 20540 USA}}</ref>{{sfn|Simeone|2013|page=294}}

In 1976, Bernstein left Felicia for a period to live in Northern California with [[Tom Cothran]], a music scholar who had assisted him on research for the [[The Unanswered Question (lecture series)|Charles Eliot Norton Lectures that Bernstein delivered at Harvard]].<ref>{{Cite news|last=Swed |first=Mark|author-link=Mark Swed|date=November 1, 1999 |title=Invoking Spirit of Bernstein |url=https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-1999-nov-01-ca-28507-story.html |access-date=June 26, 2023 |newspaper=[[Los Angeles Times]]}}</ref><ref>{{cite web |title=Leonard Bernstein a gay man who dabbled in the straight world |url=http://gayinfluence.blogspot.com/2011/07/leonard-bernstein.html |access-date=November 20, 2015 |date=July 12, 2011}}</ref> The following year, Felicia was diagnosed with lung cancer. Bernstein moved back in with her and cared for her until her death on June 16, 1978.{{sfn|Burton|1995|pages=441-442,445-446}}

Bernstein continued to have relationships with men until his death on October 14, 1990.<ref>{{Cite book |last=Bernstein |first=Jamie |title=Famous father girl: a memoir of growing up Bernstein |date=2018 |publisher=Harper, an imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers |isbn=978-0-06-264135-9 |edition=First |location=New York, NY}}</ref>

When he was not composing and conducting, Bernstein enjoyed skiing, playing tennis, and engaging in all manner of word games, especially [[anagram]]s.{{sfn|Burton|1995|loc=''passim''}}