Editing Cary Grant (section)

== Personal life ==
[[File:Cary Grant and Margaux Hemingway, 1976.jpg|thumb|right|upright|With friend [[Margaux Hemingway]] in 1976]]
Grant became a [[naturalized United States citizen]] on June 26, 1942, aged 38, at which time he also legally changed his name to Cary Grant.<ref>{{cite web |url = http://www.carygrant.net/faq.html |title = Frequently asked questions |publisher = Carygrant.net |access-date = May 21, 2013 |archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20160615095930/http://www.carygrant.net/faq.html |archive-date = June 15, 2016 |url-status=live }}</ref><ref>{{cite news |url = https://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/discussion/2005/05/24/DI2005052400695.html |title = Barbara Grant Jaynes and Robert Trachtenberg – Live Q&As transcript |date = May 26, 2005 |newspaper = The Washington Post |access-date = January 27, 2017 |archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20170128170559/http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/discussion/2005/05/24/DI2005052400695.html |archive-date = January 28, 2017 |url-status=live |quote = Barbara Grant Jaynes: He lived in this country from when he was 16 years old... He also became an American citizen in 1942. }}</ref> At the time of his naturalization, he listed his middle name as Alexander rather than Alec.<ref name=McCarthy>{{cite web |first = Andy |last = McCarthy |url = https://www.nypl.org/blog/2016/07/01/us-immigration-history |title = A Brief Passage in U.S. Immigration History |website =[[New York Public Library]]|date = July 1, 2016 |access-date = March 17, 2017 |archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20170415152437/https://www.nypl.org/blog/2016/07/01/us-immigration-history |archive-date = April 15, 2017 }}</ref>

One of the wealthiest stars in Hollywood, Grant owned houses in [[Beverly Hills]], [[Malibu, California|Malibu]], and [[Palm Springs]].{{sfn|Govoni|1973|p=207}} He was immaculate in his personal grooming, and [[Edith Head]], the renowned Hollywood costume designer, appreciated his "meticulous" attention to detail and considered him to have had the greatest fashion sense of any actor she had worked with.{{sfn|McCann|1997|pp=178–179}} McCann attributed his "almost obsessive maintenance" with tanning, which deepened the older he got,{{sfn|Morecambe|Sterling|2001|p=23}} to Douglas Fairbanks, who also had a major influence on his refined sense of dress.{{sfn|McCann|1997|p=67}} McCann notes that because Grant came from a working-class background and was not well educated, he made a particular effort over the course of his career to mix with high society and absorb their knowledge, manners, and etiquette.{{sfn|McCann|1997|pp=64–65}} His image was meticulously crafted from the early days in Hollywood, where he would frequently sunbathe; he avoided being photographed smoking despite smoking two packs a day at the time.{{sfn|Wansell|2011|p=32}} Grant quit smoking in the early 1950s through [[hypnotherapy]].{{sfn|Wansell|1996|p=122}} He remained health-conscious, staying very trim and athletic even into his late career, though he claimed that he "never crook[ed] a finger to keep fit",{{sfn|Morecambe|Sterling|2001|p=143}} saying that he did "everything in moderation. Except making love."{{sfn|Morecambe|Sterling|2001|p=317}}

Grant's daughter, Jennifer, said that her father made hundreds of friends from all walks of life, and that their house was frequently visited by the likes of Frank and [[Barbara Sinatra]], [[Quincy Jones]], [[Gregory Peck]] and his wife [[Veronique Peck|Veronique]], [[Johnny Carson]] and his wife, [[Kirk Kerkorian]], and [[Merv Griffin]]. She said that Grant and Sinatra were the closest of friends, that the two men had a similar radiance and "indefinable incandescence of charm", and that they were eternally "high on life".{{sfn|Grant|2011|p=43}} While raising Jennifer, Grant archived artifacts of her childhood and adolescence in a bank-quality, room-sized vault he had installed in the house. Jennifer attributed this meticulous collection to the fact that artifacts of his own childhood had been destroyed during the [[Bristol Blitz|Luftwaffe's bombing of Bristol]] in World War II (an event that also claimed the lives of his uncle, aunt, cousin, and his cousin's husband and grandson), and he may have wanted to prevent her from experiencing a similar loss.{{sfn|Grant|2011|pp=234, 263}}

[[File:Randolph Scott and Cary Grant over a seafood lunch.jpg|thumb|right|upright|Randolph Scott ''(left)'' and Grant in 1933 (from ''[[Modern Screen]]'' promotional feature)]]
Grant lived with costume designer [[Orry-Kelly]] from 1925 to 1931 in the West Village, New York, until both moved to Hollywood. They met when Grant was a struggling performer who had just been evicted from a boarding house for nonpayment; they had a volatile, on-and-off relationship over three decades until Orry-Kelly died in 1964, when Grant became one of his pallbearers.<ref>{{Cite book |last=Orry-Kelly. |title=Women I've Undressed. |publisher=Random House Australia |year=2015 |isbn=978-0-85798-563-7}}</ref><ref>{{Cite web |title=STITCHES IN TIME |url=https://www.smh.com.au/interactive/2015/orry-kelly/ |access-date=February 2, 2024 |website=The Sydney Morning Herald}}</ref> While Kelly stops short of claiming that Grant was his boyfriend in his memoir, director Gillian Armstrong's documentary on Kelly's memoir states so outright.<ref>{{Cite web |last=Kates |first=Ariel |date=2021-07-28 |title=Cary Grant Before He Was Cary Grant, in Greenwich Village - Village Preservation |url=https://www.villagepreservation.org/2021/07/28/cary-grant-before-he-was-cary-grant-in-greenwich-village/ |access-date=2025-02-25 |website=www.villagepreservation.org |language=en-US}}</ref>

Grant lived with actor [[Randolph Scott]] off and on for 12 years.{{sfnm|1a1=Higham|1a2=Moseley|1y=1990|1p=57|2a1=Schickel|2y=1998|2p=44|3a1=Laurents|3y=2001|3p=131|4a1=Mann|4y=2001|4p=154|5a1=Prono|5y=2008|5p=126|6a1=Guilbert|6y=2009|6p=126}} The two met early in Grant's career, in 1932, at the Paramount studio when Scott was filming ''[[Sky Bride]]'' while Grant was shooting ''[[Sinners in the Sun]];'' they moved in together soon afterwards.{{sfn|Braun|2007|p=1920}} Whether the relationship was romantic is a matter of biographical dispute.{{sfn|Nott|2004|p=12}} [[Richard Blackwell]], then an actor at RKO, [[Jerome Zerbe]], a photographer who shot a series of publicity photographs of the couple in their home, and [[Scotty Bowers]], a Hollywood pimp, all claimed to have slept with the pair. Blackwell wrote in his autobiography that Grant and Scott "were deeply, madly in love, their devotion was complete".<ref>Blackwell, Richard ''From Rags To Bitches'', General Pub Group 1994; {{ISBN|978-1881649571}}, p.54</ref><ref>Mann, William J., ''Behind the screen : how gays and lesbians shaped Hollywood, 1910–1969'', Viking 2001, {{ISBN| 978-0142001141}} p.159.</ref><ref>{{Cite web |title='Pimp to the Stars' Claims He Had a 'Three-Way' with Cary Grant and Randolph Scott |url=https://people.com/movies/pimp-to-the-stars-lovers-cary-grant-randolph-scott-threeway/ |access-date=December 25, 2023 |website=Peoplemag |language=en}}</ref> Biographer and friend of Grant's, Bill Royce, claimed that in old age Grant confessed to him that he and Scott had been bisexual, and that their relationship was the first time he'd ever been in love, characterising the memory as: "Have you ever heard of gravity collapse?" However, he allegedly also told Royce that while Scott had loved him "on some profound level", Scott had not desired him physically to the same degree, but that they had explored the imbalance of their attraction. Since Grant's death, journalists such as David Canfield writing for ''[[Vanity Fair (magazine)|Vanity Fair]]'' have revisited the rumours and speculation.<ref>{{cite web|last=Canfield|first=David|title= Cary Grant and Randolph Scott's Hollywood Story: "Our Souls Did Touch"|website=[[Vanity Fair (magazine)|Vanity Fair]]|date=January 18, 2024|url=https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/cary-grant-randolph-scott-hollywood-story}}</ref>

Grant's daughter, Jennifer, has denied her father was bisexual.{{sfn|Grant|2011|p=87}} When [[Chevy Chase]] joked on television in 1980 that Grant was a "homo. What a gal!", Grant sued him for slander, and Chase was forced to retract his words.{{sfnm|1a1=McCann|1y=1997|1p=307|2a1=Seymour|2y=2009|2pp=114–115}} Grant became a fan of comedians [[Morecambe and Wise]] in the 1960s, and remained friends with [[Eric Morecambe]] until his death in 1984.{{sfn|Morecambe|Sterling|2001|p=260}}

Grant began experimenting with [[LSD]] in the late 1950s,{{sfn|Schickel|1998|p=4}} before it became more widely popular. His wife at the time, Betsy Drake, displayed a keen interest in psychotherapy, and through her Grant developed a considerable knowledge of the field of [[psychoanalysis]]. Radiologist Mortimer Hartman began treating him with LSD in the late 1950s, with Grant optimistic that it could make him feel better about himself and rid him of the inner turmoil from his childhood and failed relationships. He had an estimated 100 sessions over several years.{{sfn|McCann|1997|pp=205–206}} For a long time, Grant viewed the drug positively, saying that it was the solution after many years of "searching for his peace of mind", and that for the first time in his life he was "truly, deeply and honestly happy".{{sfn|McCann|1997|pp=205–206}} Dyan Cannon claimed during a court hearing that he was an "apostle of LSD", and that he was still taking the drug in 1967 as part of a remedy to save their relationship.{{sfn|McCann|1997|p=239}} Grant later remarked that "taking LSD was an utterly foolish thing to do but I was a self-opinionated boor, hiding all kinds of layers and defences, hypocrisy and vanity. I had to get rid of them and wipe the slate clean."{{sfn|Morecambe|Sterling|2001|p=215}}

=== Marriages ===

Grant was married five times.{{sfn|Drury|2008|p=51}} He wed [[Virginia Cherrill]] on February 9, 1934, at the [[Caxton Hall]] [[register office]] in London.{{sfn|Wansell|2011|p=35}} She divorced him on March 26, 1935,{{sfn|Houseman|1991|p=128}} following charges that he had hit her.{{sfn|Eliot|2004|p=249}} They were involved in a bitter divorce case which was widely reported in the press, with Cherrill demanding $1,000 a week from him in benefits from his Paramount earnings.{{sfn|Wansell|2011|p=38}} Grant then  dated actress [[Phyllis Brooks]] from 1937. They considered marriage and vacationed together in Europe in mid-1939, visiting the Roman villa of Dorothy Taylor Dentice di Frasso in Italy, but the relationship ended later that year.{{sfn|Wansell|2011|p=57}}

He married [[Barbara Hutton]] in 1942,{{sfn|Seymour|2009|p=260}} one of the wealthiest women in the world, following a $50&nbsp;million inheritance from her grandfather [[Frank Winfield Woolworth]].{{sfn|Gressor|Cook|2005|p=259}} They were derisively nicknamed "Cash and Cary",{{sfn|McIntosh|Weaver|1983|p=41}} although Grant refused any financial settlement in a prenuptial agreement{{sfn|Heymann|1987|p=294}} to avoid the accusation that he married for money.{{Efn|Grant was quoted as saying: "I may not have married for very sound reasons, but money was never one of them."{{sfn|Hadleigh|2012|p=212}}}} Toward the end of their marriage they lived in a white mansion at 10615 Bellagio Road in Bel Air.{{sfnm|1a1=Higham|1a2=Moseley|1y=1990|1p=183|2a1=Chase|2y=2004|2p=97}} They divorced in 1945, although they remained the "fondest of friends".<ref>{{cite book |title = Cary Grant in the spotlight |url = https://books.google.com/books?id=hKMcHcq3c8QC |year = 1980 |publisher = Galley Press |isbn = 978-0-8317-3957-7 |page = 69 }}</ref> He dated Betty Hensel for a period,{{sfn|Wansell|1983|p=189}} then married [[Betsy Drake]], the co-star of two of his films, on December 25, 1949. In 1957 Grant had an affair with [[Sophia Loren]].<ref>{{cite web |last=Thorpe |first=Vanessa |date=October 18, 2014 |title=Sophia Loren: how Cary Grant begged me to become his lover |url=https://www.theguardian.com/film/2014/oct/19/sophia-loren-reveals-the-story-of-cary-grants-passion |accessdate=August 23, 2024 |work=[[The Guardian]]}}</ref> Drake and Grant separated in 1958,<ref>{{cite news |last1=Roberts |first1=Sam |title=Betsy Drake, 92, Actress Who Starred With (and Wed) Cary Grant, Dies |url=https://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/12/movies/betsy-drake-movie-and-stage-actress-dies-at-92.html |access-date=23 August 2024 |work=[[The New York Times]] |date=November 12, 2015}} ISSN&nbsp;0362-4331</ref> divorcing on August 14,1962.{{sfn|Parish|2010|p=200}} It was his longest marriage.{{sfn|Schickel|2009|p=28}}
[[File:Cary Grant Betsy Drake Dick Stabile 1955.jpg|thumb |right|upright|Grant with [[Betsy Drake]] and saxophonist [[Dick Stabile]] ''(right)'' in 1955]]
Grant married [[Dyan Cannon]] on July 22, 1965, at the [[Desert Inn]] in Las Vegas,{{sfnm|1a1=Higham|1a2=Moseley|1y=1990|1p=312|2a1=Drury|2y=2008|2p=52}} and their daughter [[Jennifer Grant|Jennifer]], his only child, was born on February 26, 1966;<ref name=ew>{{cite magazine |first = Nancy |last = Sidewater |url = https://www.ew.com/article/2009/08/07/cary-grant-weds-dyan-cannon-1965l |title = Cary Grant Weds Dyan Cannon (1965) |magazine = Entertainment Weekly |date = August 7, 2009 |access-date = March 13, 2013 |archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20160615100046/http://www.ew.com/article/2009/08/07/cary-grant-weds-dyan-cannon-1965 |archive-date = June 15, 2016 |url-status=live }}</ref> he frequently called her his "best production".<ref>{{cite news |url = https://news.google.com/newspapers?id=yVkiAAAAIBAJ&pg=1816,133428 |title = Hollywood loses a legend |work = Montreal Gazette |date = December 1, 1986 |page = 1 |access-date = March 13, 2013 |url-status=live |archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20190402101845/https://news.google.com/newspapers?id=yVkiAAAAIBAJ&sjid=TagFAAAAIBAJ&pg=1816,133428&dq=cary+grant+best+production |archive-date = April 2, 2019 |df = mdy-all }}</ref> He said of fatherhood:

<blockquote>My life changed the day Jennifer was born. I've come to think that the reason we're put on this earth is to procreate. To leave something behind. Not films, because you know that I don't think my films will last very long once I'm gone. But another human being. That's what's important.{{sfn|McCann|1997|p=237}}</blockquote>

Grant and Cannon separated in August 1967.<ref>''New York Daily News.'' March 21, 1968. p. 2.</ref>

On March 12, 1968, Grant was involved in a car accident in Queens, New York, en route to [[JFK Airport]], when a truck hit the side of his limousine. He was hospitalized for 17 days with three broken ribs and bruising. A female companion, Baroness Gratia von Furstenberg, was also injured in the accident.{{sfn|McIntosh|Weaver|1983|p=65}}<ref>''New York Daily News.'' March 13, 1968. p. 2.</ref> Grant and Cannon divorced nine days later.<ref>{{cite news |url = https://news.google.com/newspapers?id=AF5AAAAAIBAJ&pg=2446,6230818 |title = Cary Grant's wife granted divorce |work = [[Windsor Star]] |date = March 22, 1968 |page = 48 |access-date = March 31, 2024 |url-status=live |archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20150924215751/https://news.google.com/newspapers?id=AF5AAAAAIBAJ&sjid=BVIMAAAAIBAJ&pg=2446,6230818&dq=cary+grant+dyan+cannon+divorce |archive-date = September 24, 2015 |df = mdy-all }}</ref>

Grant had a brief affair with actress [[Cynthia Bouron]] in the late 1960s.{{sfnm|1a1=McIntosh|1a2=Weaver|1y=1983|1p=15|2a1=Eliot|2y=2004|2pp=14–15}} He had been at odds with the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences since 1958, but received an Academy Honorary Award in 1970.{{sfn|Eliot|2004|pp=14–15}} He announced that he would attend the awards ceremony to accept it, ending his 12-year boycott of the ceremony. Two days after his announcement, Bouron filed a paternity suit against him and publicly stated that he was the father of her seven-week-old daughter,{{sfn|Eliot|2004|pp=14–15}}{{efn|Grant had a reputation for filing lawsuits against the film industry since the 1930s. The basis of these suits was that he had been cheated by the respective company. Most were described as frivolous and were settled out of court. A proposal was made to present him with an Academy Honorary Award in 1969; it was vetoed by angry Academy members. The proposal garnered enough votes to pass in 1970. It is believed{{by whom|date=March 2019}} that Bouron's accusations were part of a smear campaign organized by those in the film industry.{{sfn|Eliot|2004|pp=13–19}}}} and she named him as the father on the child's birth certificate.<ref name="films">{{cite book |title = Films in Review |url = https://books.google.com/books?id=KRELAQAAMAAJ |year = 1971 |publisher = Then and There Media, LCC. |page = 192 }}</ref> Grant challenged her to a blood test and Bouron failed to provide one, and the court ordered her to remove his name from the certificate.<ref name="films" /><ref>{{cite news |url = https://news.google.com/newspapers?nid=1946&dat=19701020&id=FJIuAAAAIBAJ&pg=5361,5283628 |title = Court rejects suit against Grant |agency = Reuters |date = October 20, 1970 |work = Montreal Gazette |page = 23 |access-date = March 13, 2013 |url-status=live |archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20160615100224/https://news.google.com/newspapers?nid=1946&dat=19701020&id=FJIuAAAAIBAJ&sjid=OKEFAAAAIBAJ&pg=5361,5283628 |archive-date = June 15, 2016 |df = mdy-all }}</ref>{{efn|In 1973, Bouron was found murdered in a San Fernando parking lot.<ref>{{cite news |url = https://www.newspapers.com/clip/5443251/the_san_bernardino_county_sun/ |title = Final chapter in lurid biography |first = Marilyn |last = Beck |author-link = Marilyn Beck |date = November 6, 1973 |newspaper = [[The San Bernardino Sun]] |page = 12 |via = [[Newspapers.com]] |access-date = June 15, 2016 |archive-url = https://web.archive.org/web/20160615100440/https://www.newspapers.com/clip/5443251/the_san_bernardino_county_sun/ |archive-date = June 15, 2016 |url-status=live }} {{Open access}}</ref>}} Between 1973 and 1977, he dated British photojournalist Maureen Donaldson,{{sfn|Hofstede|1994|p=194}} followed by the much younger Victoria Morgan.{{sfn|Royce|Donaldson|1989|p=131}}

On April 11, 1981, Grant married Barbara Harris, a British hotel public relations agent 46 years his junior.{{sfnm|1a1=Wansell|1y=1996|1p=281|2a1=Roberts|2y=2014|2p=106}} They met in 1976 at the [[Royal Lancaster Hotel]] in London, where Harris was working at the time and Grant was attending a Fabergé conference. They became friends, but it was not until 1979 that she moved to live with him in California. Grant's friends felt that she had a positive impact on him, and [[Prince Rainier of Monaco]] remarked that Grant had "never been happier" than he was in his last years with her.{{sfn|Morecambe|Sterling|2001|pp=312–314}}

=== Politics ===
Biographer Nancy Nelson noted that Grant did not openly align himself with political causes but occasionally commented on current events. Grant spoke out against the [[blacklisting]] of his friend [[Charlie Chaplin]] during the period of [[McCarthyism]], arguing that Chaplin was not a [[communist]] and that his status as an entertainer was more important than his political beliefs. In 1950, he told a reporter that he would like to see a female president of the United States but asserted a reluctance to comment on political affairs, believing it was not the place of actors to do so.<ref>{{Google books|id=oIksQz7tXUcC&pg=PA180|title=Evenings With Cary Grant: Recollections in His Own Words and by Those Who Knew Him Best}}</ref> Grant supported [[Thomas Dewey]] in the [[1944 United States presidential election]], appearing at a rally at the [[Los Angeles Coliseum]] after the New York governor won the Republican nomination.<ref>{{Cite book | url=https://books.google.com/books?id=QfHXAAAAQBAJ&q=June%20Allyson | title=When Hollywood Was Right: How Movie Stars, Studio Moguls, and Big Business Remade American Politics| isbn=978-1107650282| last1=Critchlow| first1=Donald T.| date=2013| publisher=Cambridge University Press}}</ref>

In 1963 Grant visited Washington and with Attorney General [[Robert Kennedy]] went to a schoolyard, then a nearby junkyard as the two men considered what turning it into a playground might do for the children of Washington, DC,<ref>{{Cite web |last=Kaufman |first=Sarah |date=February 20, 2016 |title=Cary Grant & Bobby Kennedy: Two Gentlemen of the Junkyard |url=https://sarahlkaufman.com/2016/02/what-were-cary-grant-bobby-kennedy-doing-in-that-junkyard/ |access-date=December 6, 2023}}</ref>
On December 10, 1967, Grant attended the Democratic National Committee Fundraising Dinner at the Plaza Hotel in New York City.

In 1976, Grant made a public appearance at the [[Republican Party (United States)|Republican Party]] National Convention in [[Kansas City, Missouri|Kansas City]] during which he gave a speech in support of [[Gerald Ford]]'s reelection and for female equality before introducing [[Betty Ford]] onto the stage.<ref>{{cite web |url=https://www.cbsnews.com/news/a-star-studded-gop-convention-in-1976/ |title=A star-studded GOP convention...in 1976 |publisher=[[CBS News]] |date=July 14, 2016 |access-date=March 5, 2022}}</ref><ref>{{cite web |url=https://www.fordlibrarymuseum.gov/library/document/0003/1069133.pdf |archive-url=https://ghostarchive.org/archive/20221009/https://www.fordlibrarymuseum.gov/library/document/0003/1069133.pdf |archive-date=October 9, 2022 |url-status=live|title=1976/08/19 – Cary Grant Introduction of Betty Ford, Kansas City, Missouri |publisher=fordlibrarymuseum.gov |access-date=March 4, 2022}}</ref> A 1977 interview with Grant in ''[[The New York Times]]'' noted his political beliefs to be conservative but observed that Grant did not actively campaign for candidates.<ref>{{cite news |url=https://www.nytimes.com/1977/07/03/archives/the-other-cary-grant-being-handsome-elegant-and-everybodys-favorite.html |title=The Other Cary Grant |newspaper=The New York Times |date=July 3, 1977 |access-date=March 4, 2022|last1=Hoge |first1=Warren }}</ref>

=== Death ===
[[File:Cary Grant North by Northwest Original Still.jpg|thumb|left|upright|Still for ''North by Northwest'']]
Grant was at the [[Adler Theater]] in [[Davenport, Iowa]], on the afternoon of Saturday, November 29, 1986, preparing for his performance in ''A Conversation with Cary Grant'' when he was taken ill; he had been feeling unwell as he arrived at the theater. Basil Williams photographed him there and thought that he still looked his usual suave self, but he noticed that he seemed very tired and that he stumbled once in the auditorium. Williams recalls that Grant rehearsed for half an hour before "something seemed wrong" all of a sudden, and he disappeared backstage. Grant was taken back to the Blackhawk Hotel where he and his wife had checked in, and a doctor was called and discovered that Grant was having a massive stroke, with a blood pressure reading of 210 over 130. Grant refused to be taken to the hospital. The doctor recalled: "The stroke was getting worse. In only fifteen minutes he deteriorated rapidly. It was terrible watching him die and not being able to help. But he wouldn't let us." By 8:45&nbsp;p.m., Grant had slipped into a coma and was taken to [[St. Luke's Hospital (Davenport, Iowa)|St. Luke's Hospital]] in Davenport, Iowa.{{sfn|Morecambe|Sterling|2001|pp=323–324}} He spent 45 minutes in the emergency room before being transferred to intensive care. He died at 11:22&nbsp;pm, aged 82.{{sfn|Morecambe|Sterling|2001|p=324}}

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An editorial in ''The New York Times'' stated: "Cary Grant was not supposed to die. ... Cary Grant was supposed to stick around, our perpetual touchstone of charm and elegance and romance and youth."<ref name="nyt-editorial">{{cite news |author=<!--Editorial; no by-line.--> |title=Cary Grant's Promise |url=https://www.nytimes.com/1986/12/02/opinion/cary-grant-s-promise.html |work=The New York Times |date=December 2, 1986 |page=A34 |access-date=August 22, 2018}}</ref> His body was taken back to California, where it was cremated and his ashes scattered in the Pacific Ocean.{{sfn|Morecambe|Sterling|2001|p=325}} No funeral was conducted for him following his request, which Roderick Mann remarked was appropriate for "the private man who didn't want the nonsense of a funeral".{{sfn|McCann|1997|p=276}} His estate was worth in the region of 60 to 80&nbsp;million dollars;{{sfnm|1a1=Wansell|1y=1996|1p=188|2a1=McCann|2y=1997|2p=277}} the bulk of it went to Barbara Harris and Jennifer.<ref name="Decker, Cathleen" />